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Dating involves a lot of psychology and commitment that most people only get to feel its full effect and the fantasies in it all in visions and imagery. Most people have never really mastered the art of dating and most dating attempts have ended prematurely and some do not really come to any fruition despite looking like they are just fine. We’ve all been there: his profile looks good, the pictures are hot, and his information is intriguing. After sorting through eight million profiles of unattractive potentials – you find one that could be a diamond in the rough. A possible match. A mate. Or at least – a great first date that might lead to Some thing. His profile fits what you are searching for, and you are feeling green lights all the way. You pull out all the stops getting ready. The legs are shaved, the hair is done, the outfit is sexy and the high heels are banging. You show up brightened and bushy trailed, ready feel that first date frisson of excitement and hope. Then you meet,what next?

5 dating realities

5 dating realities
5dating realities

Dating involves a lot of psychology and commitment that most people only get to feel its full effect and the fantasies in it all in visions and imagery. Most people have never really mastered the art of dating and most dating attempts have ended prematurely and some do not really come to any fruition despite looking like they are just fine.

You can also read on the difference between love and lust here(https://xorlali.com) We’ve all been there: his profile looks good, the pictures are hot, and his information is intriguing. After sorting through eight million profiles of unattractive potentials – you find one that could be a diamond in the rough.

A possible match. A mate. Or at least – a great first date that might lead to Some thing. His profile fits what you are searching for, and you are feeling green lights all the way. You pull out all the stops getting ready. The legs are shaved, the hair is done, the outfit is sexy and the high heels are banging.

You show up brightened and bushy trailed, ready feel that first date frisson of excitement and hope. Then you meet,what next? Here are the realities that most people have been unaware of and some have sadly ignored it all.

1. Relationships can’t be emulated

Successful relationships may not be as perfect as you see them. Most successful looking relationships also have their ups and downs that only those in the know about. Trying to copy how the other relationship is and transferring it to yours is suicidal and could harm what you already have. Just handle everything step by step.

2. If it fails, it’s not always your failure

Many individuals have blamed themselves for a failed relationship despite trying their best to keep it going. It however isn’t one person’s fault as most of the time, the other person could also be unwilling to date because of other reasons known to them. It could be that they do not wish to start dating just yet and want to be alone or it could be the case of ‘once bitten, twice shy’ as in the case of failed or bitter past experiences.

3.love takes time

Falling into love at random sight could be fatal and disguisedly a passport to constant disappointments in the future. A lasting relationship is one built on friendship and the love comes in between the friendship without you having to mention it constantly. You will find that its friendship but then you cant really do without one another. Love takes time.

4. Text messages are not the best form

Relying on text messages to get the feelings the other person has towards you is a bad idea. There are cases when the other person could be tired and just give the phone to a friend to have the conversation while they sleep. This could be seen clearly especially when you meet them next day and they know very little of what you talked about or are behaving like you never talked about anything. It is therefore advisable that you talk to the person face to face and get to hear what they talk.

5.Texting or calling first

Being the first to text or call someone you are dating is not at all a sign of weakness and neither does it take anything from you. Most people have been shunning doing the texting or calling first because they think that the opposite number would deem them desperate. That however isn’t the case as doing the texting first at any point of the day or calling only makes the others know you are really thinking of them and it makes them happy. Even if they do not get to reply back as in the case of a text message because of the reasons known to them, they would have the idea that you are thinking about them at the back of their minds.

About xorlali

H i   e v e r y o n e ! This is my very first blog post ever! And nope, I am not ashamed to say I have no idea what the heck I’m doing yet. BUT, I am learning everyday and can’t wait to share & connect with you all! So if you’re into all things travel, lifestyle, entertainment, and relationship, then you, my love, are in the right place! I feel like a first blog post should probably introduce you a little bit to the person actually writing the blog, right? Right! Welllll then here we go! I’m 21 years old and live in Tema Ghana. I’m just your average Starbucks &Target obsessed girlfriend who loves finding great deals . I overuse emojis like my life depends on it (specifically the laughing and heart emojis). I’m just about as awkward/clumsy/embarrassing as a person can come. & I’d like to personally thank years of sleep deprivation for my crazy personality. So basically what I’m trying to say is that I ain’t got the first clue what I’m doing (between this blog, travel, lifestyle, entertainment ,relationship etc. lol) and I am not going to strive to be perfect over here. I’m super chill and like to keep it about as real as it gets! Ya feel me?! So if you came here expecting to find great grammar, punctuation, sentence structure, or perfectly planned out professional posts, then you probably should have clicked away like 5 minutes ago lol. If I haven’t scared you off yet, and I sound like your cup of tea, then HELLOOO new friend! We will get along great! Leave a comment or shoot me a DM, I want to get to know you! So excited for this new journey together! Merci Xorlali

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12 comments

  1. Bossman Makafui NeverGiveUp

    Nice thought of advice. thanks

  2. Our individual experience becomes our story of love , sometimes we just feel to walk the love ways of others. Love is a broad world for a narrow mind . I think we mistake the Love for Lust

  3. The best form of love comes out of friendship. It sometimes good to date and marry a good friend.

  4. Powerful words ,, you’ve drawn my attention to the little things bringing sad moments into my love-live.
    Thanks for been there for us

  5. Love this!! Very good advice.

  6. The guide to healthly a relationship is a healthy, happy, and positive. Great post

  7. Such good advice! I’ll be forwarding to my friends still dating! I married my best friend – I feel like this is the reason it is still full of spark after more than a decade!

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