It’s time to stop messing around and finally find love.
Dates on The Bachelor are specific and strategic when it comes to manufacturing emotions through the use of red roses, candles, warm colors, soft and sensual textures, romantic music, and activities that allow for conversation.
There are also heart-racing shared experiences that help to build trust and opportunities for more expansive and simultaneously deeper connections.
Set the stage for romance. Maybe not helicopters and yacht trips — but there are plenty of realistic date ideas that can achieve the same effect.
Immersive dates set daters up for an array of shared emotions through the experience. Those new experiences are the most effective and efficient way to create — even manufacture — a connection.
Better and quicker than sitting at a table and having a conversation where you are talking about and reporting on the life you have lived so far, doing an interesting activity allows you to actually feel and experience life together.
So, you are also creating memories, as well as conversations.
More than being magnetic, memorable, and making your date want more, dating can be frustratingly expensive for men. So expensive, in fact, that some people say that if you don’t have enough money, don’t bother dating until you do!
Take this important piece of dating advice to heart: if your focus in life right now is your business, as opposed to finding love, that might be something to think about.
But, if you’re ready for love and dating is a priority for you, great! No need to spend all of your hard-earned cash on a first date that could go nowhere.
Instead, keep your change, get creative, and open yourself to the possibility of creating an even deeper connection.
Here are 21 ideas for a first date that can lead you to a deeper and more intimate love.
1. Take a train
Many cities and towns have easy train access. And unlike driving to your date destination where the “fun” part of the date begins on your arrival, when you take the train, the fun starts the minute you board — especially if there is a first-class car that serves snacks and adult beverages.
You don’t need to go far, even a 45 minute trip to the next town over can feel like an adventure.
Find a cute little local hotspot, museum, or activity as your final destination for a memorable date that allows you to stand out as someone who is thoughtful, creative, and fun!
2. Have a traveling multi-course dinner
Drinks, appetizers, dinner, and dessert are much more interesting when enjoyed in different places. It’s best to find a street known for awesome places to drink and eat, then make a plan to move the party from place to place for a multi-course, multi-restaurant meal.
The movement makes the date more exciting, allows for different environments, which contribute to the conversation and extend the amount of time that you get to spend together
. Do something to get their heart rate up
No, not sex.
Create a little friendly competition. It’s been shown that people who work out together feel more chemistry towards each other thanks to the release of sweat-induced endorphins.
Go play pool, ping pong, or challenge her to a game of shuffleboard. Once you work up a sweat, grab a drink and dinner and deepen the relationship with great conversation.
4. Go to a hockey game
Elevated emotions from thrilling endorphins can easily be mistaken as chemistry and attraction. And hockey games don’t hold out on that, thanks to fast-flying pucks that slam into the glass and get you out of your seat.
In addition to the excitement, you are sitting next to each other, snuggling up to stay warm, and with plenty of time to talk, you can tell stories and get to know each other.
5. Have a pizza-off (or any of your favorite dishes, really)
If you two have debated which spot serves the best thin crust pizza, makes the most authentic burritos, bakes the perfect cupcakes, or rolls addictive sushi, then put your favorites to the test by ordering from three different spots and having a blind taste test at your place.
It’s a fun and different way to eat while getting turned on by your playfully competitive spirits.
6. Go on a picnic
No, it’s not lame. A well-thought-out picnic at a cool location that includes a comfortable blanket, bottle of wine, and finger snacks can end up being more intimate, romantic, and memorable than any expensive night on the town.
7. Take a local pub tour or go wine tasting
Many cities have local breweries or wineries where you can go in for a fun tasting on the cheap. Some spots also have palette-cleaning snacks so you can also get a free bite to eat.
Also make sure to ask about private tours, where you get to taste some of the more expensive reserve booze direct from the barrels.
8. Be a tourist in your town
Regardless of where you live, there are interesting activities to do that you likely reserve for when guests are in town, which is crazy!