Forget asking “What’s your favourite colour?” That’s as played out as overcooked kenkey. If you’re vibing with a fine girl—maybe over sobolo at a café in Osu or chatting after a family party in Kumasi—you need questions that actually spark connection.
Small talk might fill silence, but it won’t get you into her world. These five deep, culturally relatable questions are designed for the talking stage, to help you learn who she really is—from her dreams to her values—whether you’re in Tema, Volta, Labadi, Takoradi, or texting late-night on WhatsApp.
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1. What’s One Adventure You’re Dying to Go On?
This question brings out her sense of adventure and long-held dreams. Maybe she wants to explore Cape Coast castles, experience at Hogbetsotso festival , or catch flights to Dubai. Her answer tells you how spontaneous, cultured, or laid-back she is.
How to Ask:
“Ei, if you could pack a bag tomorrow, where would you go?”
From a hike up Aburi Hills to a beach trip to Busua, her answer could lead to deeper stories—and maybe future plans together.
Pro Tip: Share your own dream getaway (like a road trip to Wli Waterfalls) to keep the conversation flowing.
2. What Song, Movie, or Book Changed How You See the World?
This one taps into her mind and emotions. Maybe she was moved by Beasts of No Nation, inspired by Efua Sutherland’s plays, or vibed with M.anifest’s lyrics.
How to Ask:
“What’s a song or movie that really made you think differently?”
This shows you care about what shapes her outlook—and not just her playlist. Don’t forget to throw in your own pick, like The Lion King or Sarkodie’s Mary album
3. What’s One Thing You’re Proud of Accomplishing?
Let her shine! Whether she graduated from the University of Ghana, started a shea butter business, or helped raise siblings, this question allows her to flex her hustle and heart.
How to Ask:
“What’s something you’ve done that made you feel like a boss?”
Celebrate her win, ask follow-up questions, and share your own proud moment—like starting a side hustle or surviving NYSC in Nigeria (if you schooled there!).
4. What’s a Non-Negotiable for You in a Relationship?
This one gets real. Maybe she needs honesty, respect for her career, or faith alignment. In Ghana, where family and tradition often shape love, this helps you see if you’re compatible.
How to Ask:
“What’s one thing you can’t compromise on in a relationship?”
Be ready to share yours too—whether it’s communication, ambition, or someone who won’t roast your jollof skills.
Pro Tip: Ask this over a shared meal or chilled drink—not during a serious argument or when she’s stressed from work.
5. What’s Something You’ve Always Wanted to Try or Learn?
This playful question reveals hidden passions—from learning to dance adowa, to making palm wine, or speaking fluent Ewe.
How to Ask:
“What’s something you’ve always wanted to try but never got the chance?”
Maybe you’ll even offer to join her—learning kente weaving in Bonwire or mastering your mum’s jollof recipe. It’s flirty, fun, and shows you support her growth.
How to Make These Questions Work for You
- Be Natural: Don’t fire all five questions like a quiz. Weave them into real convo.
- Be Present: Listen. Engage. Nod. Ask follow-ups like “Why that moment though?”
- Be Playful: Keep the vibe chill. You’re getting to know each other—not applying for marriage approval from her chief.
Mistakes to Avoid in the Talking Stage
Asking Too Many Questions at Once
Don’t turn the convo into an interview. Space them out—one per day or date is plenty.
Not Listening
If she shares something deep and you brush it off, you’ve missed a golden chance to connect.
Getting Too Serious Too Soon
Balance the deep questions with jokes, memes, or asking her to teach you how to do azonto. Keep it light.
Conclusion
Forget the tired “What’s your favourite colour?” vibe. With these five powerful questions—rooted in Ghanaian culture and crafted to spark real connection—you’ll stand out from the crowd and create conversations worth remembering.
So the next time you’re texting her after a wedding in Ho or chilling at Sandbox, drop one of these gems and listen like a guy who’s serious but sweet. Who knows? The convo might end with both of you planning a baecation to Mole National Park.
